Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Morning Rhythm

Rhythm... I must admit that this is a bit of a struggle for me. I'm not sure why, I've always thrived on routines and predictability. But, as a mother, I find it difficult to make it come together. Let's be real, children, while they need predictability, predictable they are not! And, more than that, I never know what I should add, should it be a regular thing, oh, and lets not forget the mountain of work that constantly calls me away. Where does that fit in? I'm really not sure... yet. But I'm working on it.
I think I have mentioned here that we begin our first home school year in September (eek! less than a week away!), so I'm really feeling like this is something I've got to get and get it now! Linking up with Nichole today, I'm going to show you where we are, so far.My day starts at, ideally, 5:30 am. But River won't always let me leave the bed then or perhaps I didn't get to bed like I should have the night before and so we'll say, anywhere from 5:30-7. This is the time I really need to have, a little alone time, time to drink a cup of coffee, do a little blogging, catch up on emails. Because, yet again ideally, I would then close the laptop and not touch it again til at least nap time. But I still haven't figured out how to get all I need done here and stay caught up on everything in that time frame. Another something I really need to figure out, pronto.
Anyway, at 7:00 if the girls haven't already woken up, I go into their room and gently wake them, singing, pulling down the covers and generally they wake cheerfully, singing along. We use this one for waking and greeting the morning. Very familiar but with a twist, insisted upon by the girls.
Good morning dear earth
Good morning dear sun
Good morning to the rocks, and the flowers, every one
Good morning to the busy bees and the little bunnies and the dragons and the birds in the trees
Good morning to you and good morning to me

At this point, I am dressed so I will attempt to smoothly get the girls dressed and into the bathroom. Realistically, though, the girls become distracted by toys or books right away and there is nothing in their closet they will agree to wear or Kaiya is going to lie in bed and refuse to dress (because 6 is the new 16, apparently). And while all of this is going on I am swiftly making everyone's bed, on Monday changing the sheets. If I am lucky they're ready to head into the bathroom by the time I am done.
If not (more often than not) I will spend another 10-15 minutes attempting to find clothes that make everyone happy and convincing Kaiya to get dressed, which isn't easy. This isn't fun, it's actually a stressful way to begin the morning, arguing with and cajoling her, and if you have some advice for me on this one, I would love to hear it.
Eventually we are off into the bathroom for teeth brushing and hair combing. We sing my little teeth brushing song (to the tune of Merry Old Land of Oz, from The Wizard of Oz).
Brush, brush, brush
Brush brush, brush
Brush all your little teeth
Clean, clean, clean
Clean them good
So you don't get cavities

This generally goes pretty smoothly. And, yes, we brush before we eat. I just have to do this, always have. I can't stand morning mouth and I can't eat with it, either.
Next up, we head outside to care for the animals. I wrote all about that here last week. As I said, our rule is, people don't eat before the animals are cared for. It is important to me to teach the children that our responsibility to our animals is very important.
Once we are back in, it's time for our own breakfast. Generally we have eggs and toast one morning, and oatmeal the next. Occasionally we will change it up with muffins or biscuits or something special. But we usually reserve those things for the weekend. Some mornings the girls will help me, otherwise they play or read til it's ready.

Mornings aren't that big of a deal for me, at least not this getting ready for the day part. It's everything that comes after that stumps me. I'll get more into that next week maybe. Until then, enjoy some other posts on rhythm, linked up on Nichole's beautiful blog.

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Lovely bright and cheery photos:)
Ill check back to see if anyone has tips for encouraging kaiya to get dressed, I have struggles getting shoes on one of the little day care boys at home time (although he puts them on happily when he wants to play outside!) so hopefully someone has some good tips
I totally hear you...I read Nicole's posts with admiration and a sigh of "I could never..." haha! There are just too many unpredictables in our lives...visits from friends, special events at the library, late nights of music (so that the kids sleep in)...I do hope to create more of a rhythm once school starts, as I'll be home on alternate days with just my younger girls (my son starts full time school in a week!); I like the idea of the PEACE of a flexible rhythm (for example, doing certain chores on certain days)...I think I would thrive on it as much as my kids would. Working on it!
1 reply · active 708 weeks ago
Always working on it!

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your rhythm sounds lovely,despite the interruptions. advice the getting-dressed, let her pick her outfit for the next day the night before and have it read and waiting for her on her bedside table. It works well for us.
much love to you,
miri
2 replies · active 708 weeks ago
I like that suggestion, Miri, I'll give it a try. Thanks!

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I was gonna suggest the same thing, but if I may add: sometimes it is helpful to offer two choices that you've already selected (depending on what you're doing for the day) and she gets to choose one. Reduces the thorn-in-our-parenting-side of power struggles.
I won't let my kids eat breakfast until they're dressed, so that is sometimes a good motivator.
1 reply · active 708 weeks ago
Yeah, by now the girl are just used to it, they know what comes first, which is the point!

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My MIL has, several times, pointed out that we just need a routine in our home. Ha, ha, ha, ha. "Just". We do have routines, and rhythm, AND mayhem. It's family life.

Blessings...
I'm trying to get myself back into that early morning routine for fall...that quiet morning time is so important for my sanity:)
1 reply · active 708 weeks ago
It so is, Angie. This morning, I was able to nurse River back to sleep by 6 and slip out of bed... only to have her wake and come into the bathroom about 2 min later. Rather than fighting it I brought her into my office with me, only to have Kaiya wake about 2 min later. River desperately trying to get back into the girls bedroom to wake them, Kaiya not wanting to stay in bed.... sigh, I give up. It really threw the morning off and I'm just now trying to catch up and wind myself down from the aggravation that followed.

This will pass, and I'll try again tomorrow.

XO
Julie

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It may be a struggle in real life but your morning rhythm sounds lovely. It's certainly something beautiful to strive for each day. :)
Ooh, I love that photo with the rumpled bed and the lamby out the window... Also, how can I find the melody for singing the Good Morning Dear Earth song? And I love your tooth brushing song to the tune of the Merry Old Land of Oz... Our brushing the teeth song is a jaunty march with these words, "Brushing the teeth, Brushing the teeth, This is how we brush our little teeth. Brushing the teeth, Brushing the teeth, this is how we brush our little teeth, 'Cause we want them nice and bright, So they won't be a fright, And fall out in the middle of the night! Brushing the teeth, Brushing the teeth. This is how we brush our little teeth!"

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